Which offer a women accept from a man - as a Girl Friend or a Wife?
Personally i choose the first option - a "Girl Friend" role. I asked this question to most of my friends and ofcourse 82% voted for girl friend, 10% voted for wife and 8% voted 'we hate them'. Let me exclude the 8% and come back to other portion. Most surprising part of 82% is; they all are holding the designation as WIFE for more than 10 years. Being a wife why we choose 'Girl Friend'? That is the reason why i thought of writing this in my blog.
When marriage brings more bond and security; why everyone opt for being a lover? Lot of limitations are there to meet a lover but there is no limitations to meet your husband. Any time, any where you can be with your husband but not with your lover. Still why BOY FRIEND get more attention than a HUSBAND. Few social factors like finance, responsibility, stability etc will be highlighted when you discuss about the issue with other. But is this true? All the described facts affect a TRUE LOVER too.
Will describe a small scenario to come to my point : Consider you commit to the partner; you will take her to a movie but unfortunately you are not able to do it. How a boy friend and husband react in this case?
BOY FRIEND :: Try to call her and convince his need to cancel the plan. And will say don't worry we will go tomorrow or will plan for another day. Incase of failure in informing her, will comeback home with a surprise to overcome the situation or at the most ready to say a SORRY.
HUSBAND :: First mistake will not inform he is not able to come. (Ofcourse by this waiting time, WIFE might have turned to explode stage). Then after coming instead of saying the reason or a sorry he says "why don't you understand i have meetings or something else". Another good reason to provoke your exploded wife. Then comes the argument and yellings :)
Same scenario handled by same person in two different phases. Who is better... "BOY FRIEND" right. The reason for the issue is priority for the person of your life came down. Never ever do a mistake of consider WIFE as take for grant. This small mistake can ruin your whole life. This issue happens even in arrange marriages as well. Initially everything goes well but after years pass by issues start. The reason is the same. Give importance to your partner at any reason. Don't allow a second fact to over rule your importance of your partner.
I came to the above conclusion by comparing the real life issues seen from the 10% who voted for WIFE. They are happy as WIFE for the above reason. Everyone has to face the issues occur by social factors but the above mentioned issue only you are the one who is responsible.
BEHIND EVERY SUCCESSFUL MAN, THERE IS A WOMAN. That woman is nobody else than your wife. You are the one who is responsible to keep your wife as that woman to be a SUCCESSFUL MAN.
All the best wishes to have a happy married life !!!!
Personally i choose the first option - a "Girl Friend" role. I asked this question to most of my friends and ofcourse 82% voted for girl friend, 10% voted for wife and 8% voted 'we hate them'. Let me exclude the 8% and come back to other portion. Most surprising part of 82% is; they all are holding the designation as WIFE for more than 10 years. Being a wife why we choose 'Girl Friend'? That is the reason why i thought of writing this in my blog.
When marriage brings more bond and security; why everyone opt for being a lover? Lot of limitations are there to meet a lover but there is no limitations to meet your husband. Any time, any where you can be with your husband but not with your lover. Still why BOY FRIEND get more attention than a HUSBAND. Few social factors like finance, responsibility, stability etc will be highlighted when you discuss about the issue with other. But is this true? All the described facts affect a TRUE LOVER too.
Will describe a small scenario to come to my point : Consider you commit to the partner; you will take her to a movie but unfortunately you are not able to do it. How a boy friend and husband react in this case?
BOY FRIEND :: Try to call her and convince his need to cancel the plan. And will say don't worry we will go tomorrow or will plan for another day. Incase of failure in informing her, will comeback home with a surprise to overcome the situation or at the most ready to say a SORRY.
HUSBAND :: First mistake will not inform he is not able to come. (Ofcourse by this waiting time, WIFE might have turned to explode stage). Then after coming instead of saying the reason or a sorry he says "why don't you understand i have meetings or something else". Another good reason to provoke your exploded wife. Then comes the argument and yellings :)
Same scenario handled by same person in two different phases. Who is better... "BOY FRIEND" right. The reason for the issue is priority for the person of your life came down. Never ever do a mistake of consider WIFE as take for grant. This small mistake can ruin your whole life. This issue happens even in arrange marriages as well. Initially everything goes well but after years pass by issues start. The reason is the same. Give importance to your partner at any reason. Don't allow a second fact to over rule your importance of your partner.
I came to the above conclusion by comparing the real life issues seen from the 10% who voted for WIFE. They are happy as WIFE for the above reason. Everyone has to face the issues occur by social factors but the above mentioned issue only you are the one who is responsible.
BEHIND EVERY SUCCESSFUL MAN, THERE IS A WOMAN. That woman is nobody else than your wife. You are the one who is responsible to keep your wife as that woman to be a SUCCESSFUL MAN.
All the best wishes to have a happy married life !!!!
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